Comparing Ourselves to Others
If you want to feel miserable, then I would recommend that you “compare” yourself to someone else.
But, why would I want to do that?
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Erika Baum
- Dec 17, 2022
- 2 min
4 Unexpected Places to Meet a Partner this Christmas
December could be an excellent time to meet a partner.
Here are some unexpected places you could meet a partner this season:
Volunteer
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Erika Baum
- Oct 26, 2022
- 3 min
Singlehood
Challenges of Singlehood
Single people are aware that there are unique challenges to singlehood. This can make it challenging to embrace th
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Erika & Justin Baum
- Oct 24, 2022
- 2 min
5 Ways You May Turn Your Date Off
If you are going on dates and the other person is not interested in you, you may be doing one or more of these 5 turnoffs. Bring your...
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Erika Baum
- Oct 14, 2022
- 4 min
8 Red Flags to NEVER Ignore on a First Date
STOP sweeping these red flags under the rug!
For many, first dates can bring up conflicted feelings such as nervousness, excitement, and som
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Erika Baum
- Sep 22, 2022
- 2 min
Ask Better Questions on Your Next Date
Asking more open-ended questions along with reflective listening will help your date be more open and communicative. Closed-ended questions
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Erika & Justin Baum
- Sep 16, 2022
- 4 min
What is your attachment style?
According to the psychoanalyst John Bowlby and psychologist Mary Ainsworth, our early childhood and particularly infancy influence our...
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Erika Baum
- Mar 29, 2022
- 3 min
Helping or Enabling?
Many people confuse their intentions to help another with enabling behavior. This article will discuss the difference between helping and en
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 2 min
Venting
Is there a purpose to venting?
This is a question I have been considering. I've asked some mentors, friends, and family their thoughts on th
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 2 min
Yes, and...
Instead of saying "yes, but...", saying "yes, and..." may really help improve the connection in your conversations with others.
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 1 min
Self-judgement
How we talk to ourselves may greatly impact how we speak and act towards others.
Transforming your self-judgment is key to improving your
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 3 min
Did you make a "mistake"? How to express regrets...
I invite you to take a moment and think of the last "mistake" you consider yourself making.
How did you respond to the person impacted by i
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 3 min
Connection Request: Phrases to ask for a reflection or response
The practice of the connection request has been a difficult one for me to integrate into my conversations. The "dump and run" approach was m
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 1 min
Interrupting Skills
So how could I handle a situation when someone is talking too much or not letting me have an opportunity for input?
Connect internally to
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Erika & Justin Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 1 min
Stop being a glass...Become a Lake
An aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, t
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 1 min
I have to vs. I choose to
A small rephrasing of the "I have to..." to "I choose to...because I value..." really embodies the self-responsibility that NVC teaches.
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 5 min
There is no "I" in empathy. That is sympathy.
What is empathy?
It is placing full attention on YOU as a unique person and what is alive in YOU right now. From my experience, this tremend
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 5 min
Interdependence & Compromise
We are all interdependent, and our choices as human beings impact one another. If my personal needs are met but the needs I am holding with
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Erika & Justin Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 2 min
W.A.I.T. = Why am I talking?
By taking a moment to "W.A.I.T" and ask myself, "why am I talking?" I can take that moment to become aware of my own needs and the needs of
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Erika Baum
- Mar 23, 2022
- 2 min
The Ego
What is the purpose of the ego?
I like to think of the ego as this overprotective bodyguard who ends up making awkward situations due to his
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