Comparing Ourselves to Others
If you want to feel miserable, then I would recommend that you “compare” yourself to someone else.
But, why would I want to do that?
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The best way to predict your future is to create it.
What limiting mindset is holding you back?
"Erika has this easy way of seeing the most authentic you, and guiding you toward not just seeing it too, but embracing yourself fully. Doing so helps you get crystal clear in who you are and how you want that to be honored and received in a relationship. She's helped me to realize I don't want to settle for anything less than someone who loves my whole self. Because of this, I've found new pathways of communication and ways of being in my existing relationship, which has greatly enhanced the depth of our happiness and bond.
Jessica
Littleton, CO
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4 Unexpected Places to Meet a Partner this Christmas
December could be an excellent time to meet a partner.
Here are some unexpected places you could meet a partner this season:
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Singlehood
Challenges of Singlehood
Single people are aware that there are unique challenges to singlehood. This can make it challenging to embrace th
5 Ways You May Turn Your Date Off
If you are going on dates and the other person is not interested in you, you may be doing one or more of these 5 turnoffs. Bring your...
8 Red Flags to NEVER Ignore on a First Date
STOP sweeping these red flags under the rug!
For many, first dates can bring up conflicted feelings such as nervousness, excitement, and som
Ask Better Questions on Your Next Date
Asking more open-ended questions along with reflective listening will help your date be more open and communicative. Closed-ended questions
What is your attachment style?
According to the psychoanalyst John Bowlby and psychologist Mary Ainsworth, our early childhood and particularly infancy influence our...
Helping or Enabling?
Many people confuse their intentions to help another with enabling behavior. This article will discuss the difference between helping and en
Venting
Is there a purpose to venting?
This is a question I have been considering. I've asked some mentors, friends, and family their thoughts on th
Yes, and...
Instead of saying "yes, but...", saying "yes, and..." may really help improve the connection in your conversations with others.
Self-judgement
How we talk to ourselves may greatly impact how we speak and act towards others.
Transforming your self-judgment is key to improving your
Did you make a "mistake"? How to express regrets...
I invite you to take a moment and think of the last "mistake" you consider yourself making.
How did you respond to the person impacted by i
Connection Request: Phrases to ask for a reflection or response
The practice of the connection request has been a difficult one for me to integrate into my conversations. The "dump and run" approach was m
Interrupting Skills
So how could I handle a situation when someone is talking too much or not letting me have an opportunity for input?
Connect internally to
Stop being a glass...Become a Lake
An aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, t
I have to vs. I choose to
A small rephrasing of the "I have to..." to "I choose to...because I value..." really embodies the self-responsibility that NVC teaches.
There is no "I" in empathy. That is sympathy.
What is empathy?
It is placing full attention on YOU as a unique person and what is alive in YOU right now. From my experience, this tremend
Interdependence & Compromise
We are all interdependent, and our choices as human beings impact one another. If my personal needs are met but the needs I am holding with
W.A.I.T. = Why am I talking?
By taking a moment to "W.A.I.T" and ask myself, "why am I talking?" I can take that moment to become aware of my own needs and the needs of
The Ego
What is the purpose of the ego?
I like to think of the ego as this overprotective bodyguard who ends up making awkward situations due to his
My Perspective, Your Perspective
"None of us live in an objective world, but instead in a subjective world that we ourselves have given meaning to. The world you see is diff
Am I too competitive?
Humans love competition. They have from the beginning of time. This is evident with the multi-billion dollar pro sports industry. Participat
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